Body Language in Flirting

This is a good example of mirroring. The guy and the girl in this picture hold there legs in the same way.

Your body language in flirting and other mating rituals is critical in determining whether or not you get the girl you want. When a guy likes a girl, he often uses body language that is completely inappropriate - goofiness, aggression, or other bad habits that are more likely to drive away your perfect woman than draw her to you.

For this reason, you need to understand how body language in flirting works, and how you can use your own non-verbal communication to convince girls to come to you.

Mirroring Body Language

One great place to start is by mirroring body language. Pay attention to the way the girl you are interested in moves, where and how she holds her hands, how she keeps her legs, is she standing still or making small movements. Pay attention to all those little details and then start copying her. Is she talking slowly? Adjust the tempo of your voice to match hers. Does she have her legs crossed? Cross your legs as well. But look out! It's important to do this in a subtle way, else she'll notice you are mimicking her.

But body language in flirting involves more than the eyes. Watch everything she does. If she likes to touch, reciprocate. When she moves a little closer to you, move closer to her as well. Never, ever be afraid of mimicking her body language in flirting; that's her language, and you're telling her that you're interested in the same thing she is.

Sexual Body Language

Once you're used to using body language in flirting, you can try out something a little more serious: sexual body language. Sexual body language in flirting involves all kinds of positive body language, like "open" arms and feet, but it also incorporates some aggression.

Start with romantic body language. Some examples of this include:

• Frequent touching, especially of her hair and gentle caresses of her face
• Standing protectively between her and any danger - other guys, the road, etc.
• Taking her hand, courtly behavior (not bowing or anything so overt - I'm talking opening doors, pulling out her chair, etc.)

If body language in flirting romantically is accepted, try getting a little more bold. Sexual body language is going to involve a lot more touching. Massage is acceptable; start with her hands, gently, and move on to her scalp. If she likes it, you will probably get verbal encouragement.

I shouldn't have to say this, but never, ever go for third base unless there's a clear invitation. When she's ready for it, she'll signal. She may go after you first, or she may push her breasts hard against your chest when you embrace. She will make the first move, though, whether she's aware of it or not.

Never mistake body language in flirting for clear communication. It's not. It's a dance and an art. If you're not sure what she's saying with her body, ask her before doing anything drastic. And try to say as much as you can with your own body language in flirting.