An Introduction to Flirting
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| Flirting, a ritual that every human culture engages in. |
The key dance to master in your romantic life is flirting. This ancient art is both fun and critical to the future of the human race. Who started it? No one knows, though women tend to be better at it. If you want to have any romantic life at all, you really need to learn how to flirt.
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Why should you learn how to flirt? Women love it, to begin with. Women adore it when men flirt with them, whether they mean anything serious by it or not. You can also view it as practice. What if you meet the girl of your dreams, you think you have a serious chance with her, and your flirting skills are not up to par? This could be a serious problem!
Flirting is a ritual that every human culture engages in, often in ways you wouldn't expect. We don't learn how to do it naturally anymore, unfortunately. But a lesson or two on this fine art can ensure you a much more enjoyable dating life, as well as a boost to your ego every time you do it.
How To Flirt
Realize, first, that flirting has both verbal and non verbal components. The verbal part is easiest to learn. You just have to know the right things to say - and the wrong ones as well. For example, men flirting will often try out goofy memorized lines. The wrong thing to say:
"Is this heaven, or did you just fall down to earth?"
Not really as clever as you think! Now, the right thing to say as an opener:
"I saw you standing here alone and I thought, how wrong is that? Can I buy you a drink?"
Not clever, but flattering and lets her know exactly what your intentions are. You aren't trying to be smooth with some line you memorized; instead, you are being sincere and open. You're flirting, and you're not pretending to be someone else.
So forget all the stupid books with the stupid lines - except as something to laugh at when you're flirting with women. They do make excellent topics for ridicule.
Now here's the problem. You have a great opening line to begin to flirt with that girl over next to the bar, but you don't know whether she'll be accepting of you, or throw her drink in your face. You have a quandary.
Don't agonize over it. Instead, learn how body language in flirting works. Most men don't realize until it's too late that it's the woman who selects them; her body cues and other subtle physical signals tell him when it's okay to approach her (yes, we're all on Animal Planet!) When you learn the art of flirting, you'll learn how those subtle signals women give off work, and how you can send back your own signals of interested or not interested.
Stop beating your head on the proverbial brick wall, and learn how to flirt with your whole body. When your flirting technique has been honed to a fine edge, you'll find those trips to the local meat-market bar have transformed from agony to ecstacy.